Expectation versus reality - an unhealthy habit of thinking

Greetings, people of the internet,

Long time no see, am I right? Things have been quite busy and I just moreor less recovered from a very bad flu, but since I am back on track, I thought I would share with you something, that has been on my mind quite a lot recently - us humans tend to expect a lot.
We expect certain things from life, from ourselves, from other people and if we then don't get them, we feel disappointed. In my opinion, there is a great difference between wanting something to be a certain way and expecting something to be certain way.
Both of them might come with the same amount of personal demand (which is not a bad thing, as it is important to be self-aware and know about our needs), but expectation also comes with quite a portion of laziness.

If you really want icecream, you will find a way to get it.
When you expect icecream, you will do nothing for it and wait for it to be served to you.

And maybe you will even get fed up when a restaurant doesn't even have icecream on their menu - outrageous, how dare they!
I think we are all guilty here in some form of way...

 When imagination becomes expectation, reality can seem to dull out, and it is very easy to get stuck in it.

Sometimes it is hard to tell the difference, what kind of sensation of the two we are experiencing. Shaped through the things we have been through, we have a certain view on how our surrounding is supposed to react in certain situations and if they don't, we tend to feel misunderstood, neglected or even offended.
We are projecting our own wishes onto somebody else and expect this person to somehow magically know. Especially with romantical relationships, I am having the feeling that nowadays people don't want to ask certain things of their partners, because they think that would somehow ruin the magic and that the gesture wouldn't be genuine anymore, because "I told him/her to to do it and now it doesn't feel real". Instead of "I wish he/she would...", wouldn't it be so much easier to just communicate?

This doesn't mean however, that it is wrong to have needs or even some form of wee anticipation - it makes us human to have a certain view about our life is supposed to be, and we do have the right to build our own ideal world around us - but those closest to us deserve to share into this dream and peak into our ideal reality and being offered a place in it. 

Only by bringing our dreams into reality, we can set the first step of letting them become real.